It doesn’t matter how in love you and your partner are or how perfect you are for each other, having kids is enough to put a strain on any relationship. However, with a bit of planning and care there’s no reason the romantic spark can’t stay alive, and we’ve put together some suggestions to help you do just that.
- Set aside a date night
Do you have parents nearby, a good friend, or one kid old enough to look after the others? One great way to keep the romance alive after having kids is to set aside one night every fortnight or month to have a date night, wher you spend time just with your partner and do something you both enjoy – take the chance to reconnect and check in with each other. You could even consider a little trip away, maybe renting a hotel and getting some sex toys to have a little fun.
- Keep surprising each other
The main thing that kills romance after having kids is falling into the same routine day in, day out. If you can find time to do something surprising – even something as simple as bringing home a bunch of flowers or an extra slice of cake from the coffee shop can make your partner feel seen and cared for. Of course, once in a while something a little bigger like surprise plane tickets might be in order – but don’t break the bank every time. Sex toys for couples can also be a great way to surprise your partner and a nice way to break up the feeling of routine.
- Cook together
Try and cook together at least once a week, even if it’s just an ordinary weekday meal. Sharing a task like this strengthens the feeling of a shared life and gives you and your partner a chance to talk and connect without taking time out of the busy daily schedule.
- Get the family together for dinner each day
Although it doesn’t result in alone time with your partner, using dinner as a chance to spend some quality time with the family. Get everyone together to eat around the table each evening – or at least a couple of evenings a week – keeps all members of the family involved in each other’s lives, and creates a close bond. Both you and your partner feeling like an active part of the family also strengthens the romantic bond between you.
No relationship is perfect and they all take work – but it’s all worth it in the end. Trying one or two of the suggestions above (especially date night!) make it much simpler to keep the spark alive and ticking, even in the face of the challenge of having kids.